Saturday, May 29, 2010


 April 4, 2002 - May 29, 2010


Junior said...

Becky I sit here in tears as I read that your sweet Ben has earned his wings. Your family is in our prayers and we pray that God wraps his arms around you and gives you comfort during this most difficult time. We love you.

boltefamily said...

There are just no words. My heart breaks with you. Death sucks. Benjamin has been such a light in my life. My boys were not able to live as long as Ben and I would watch as he grew and thrived in your family and it was so evident that God chose the perfect family for your boy. You loved him with a passion that was easily seen just via your blog. Please know that your boy has made a HUGE impact on this world. This world will never be the same with out him but is better because he was here. Hoping our prayers can carry you where your legs cannot in the days to come.

asplashofsunshine said...

Ohhhhhh, I am in shock! My breath is taken away by this news. Peace sweet boy, peace.

April said...

Oh Becky,
Today our world has stopped as we mourn one of the sweetest souls we'll ever know.
Our hearts ache for you and your precious family. May you feel the love of the Lord during this tender time.
We love you more than words.

You are in our hearts and prayers- this day- and always.
Oh how we love you sweet Ben....till we meet again...


We will miss our sweet little angel, Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family, please remember that we are here, if you need anything we will happy to help. I love you very much!!!

Anita said...

i've never met you, and yet i am inspired by your life and love. Thank you for sharing your precious boy with me.
I pray God will wrap his arms around you and give you the strength and love you need at this time.

Erin said...

Becky I'm in shock.
There are no words. I just wish I could be there for you as you were for me. I love you and am so grateful for you and for Ben! Congratulations to Ben, and much comfort to you.

Anonymous said...

Sitting here in tears praying for peace and understanding for you and your entire family. Sweet Ben is whole and now able to run the streets of Heaven with all of the other Hydran Angels. We send lots of Huggles, Love and Prayers.

Anonymous said...

So sorry for your lose. Benny was very loved. You can see that in all the pictures. He was an active part of your family. May God grant the peace of knowing that Benny is now free. He is soaring with the best of the angels.


ellen said...

I'm so sorry. Your family is in my prayers. We're all going to miss Ben.

Emily B. said...

Oh Becky, my heart hurts for you. I'm so glad (at least it seems from your posts) that Benny's last days were happy, sunny ones with his family. I love you so much friend. I hope you and Steve and your other sweet kids can feel the Lord's presence and comfort through your grief.

CurtisAdie said...

I am so, so sorry to hear about Ben!! What a special young man!! We are so blessed to have the knowledge of the plan of salvation!! My prayers and thoughts are with your family!! You, Ben, and your family are such an inspiration to me!! May you have peace and comfort during this difficult time.

Anonymous said...

I never met you but Benjamin changed my life. Thank you for posting his story and may you be uplifted during this time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Cindi said...

Ben has blessed this world with his presence...anyone who has known him or known of him will be changed for the better forever. I cry for your hearts, I rejoice for the gospel promise and for having been allowed to know, in a small way, this celestial boy, and to know his loving, giving family. I am humbled...

LL said...

tears. I am so sorry!
I love you.

The VW's said...

I can't believe what I am reading! I am so sad! My heart breaks for your family! You must feel such a loss!

Ben was put on this earth for a purpose....I'm at such a loss for words, but I have faith that his purpose was fulfilled and now he is basking in the glory of God.

May God fill your family with peace, strength, grace and love today and always! I will be thinking of you and praying for you! Love, Hugs and Prayers!!!

shirlgirl said...

Our dear sweet niece--we were so saddened to hear of Benji's passing last night. Our hearts ache for you and your awesome family during this very difficult time in your lives. Even knowing that some day this would happen, we are never prepared. Benji was such a sweet spirit and has changed so many lives. He'll be dancing and running amongst the angels with those beautiful painted toes by his sweet sister, Stevie Maree. We love you so much and our hearts are broken. May you find peace and comfort in knowing that Benji is now with the Heavenly Father. All our love. Aunt Shirley and Uncle David

Sandy said...

Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you take this jorney with your sweet angel ^Ben^. He is now playing with my ^Jonathon^ & ^Amelia^ who were both hydran. We are friends of Junior and Heidi. ^Ben^ will always be the twinkling star and the beautiful butterfly you see flying by. He is just checking to be sure you are all alright.

Jessica said...

Like others here, I've never met you. But I've followed Ben's journey for some time, and am truly saddened. Ben is now playing free with the angles - watching over all of you.

Anonymous said...

So sorry for the loss of your angel. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. I am a mom with two earth angels who continue to amaze the doctors.

Rich Day said...


I am so sorry to hear of your loss. What an inspiration you both have been to so many.

Our little family's thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

Please know of our love.


Anonymous said...

i've been reading your blog for a while and Ben really impacted me, he's such an inspiration and changed the life and mind of many people who didn't know him in person, rest in peace sweet angel, and thanks for making me see the world with different eyes, your family is in my prayers... ana from mexico

Smilin' sunshine said...

So sorry. There are no words to describe the sadness in my heart for your family. You are all in our prayers.

Shanna said...

Becky and Family-

Ben has truly been an inspiration to the many children that I have seen come in and out of the PICU. Words cannot express the sheer disbelief and shock when I was told this morning when I arrived at work. As I sit here typing this, I am crying looking at his picture knowing that I won't be able to see those cheeks again, but I know that he isn't in pain either. I know that the following days, months, and probably years will be very rough for all of you as you loved this boy so very much, but, if you hold onto each other tight, you won't ever get over the grief of the loss, you will just get through it together.

Ben can now join my precious CJ playing in the streets of heaven with each other until we are able to join them. I am sure they will get along just perfectly.

God Bless you all....


Jenny said...


Zion And Missy said...

As tears run down my face and my heart aches, I KNOW you will see Benny again. I pray for peace for you. Peace for your hearts. Peace for your souls. I love you and your wonderful family. We pray for you. We are thinking of you. I know no words can truly express to you how we feel, please know that we are thinking and praying for you. We love you.

tytysmom said...

I came across your blog/your LOVE Story several months ago after the death of my sweet girl through the Kidz site. While I've never posted before I have followed your journey and related to the pure joy that is so evident in your mothering "Benny". I am so very sorry to learn of his passing and pray that you find comfort along this journey. I instantly thought of the following poem - knowing that you would have chosen Ben a thousand times over


If before you were born I could have gone to Heaven to see all of the beautiful souls, I still would have chosen you.

If God had told me that this soul would one day need extra care, I still would have chosen you.

If He had told me that one day this soul may make my heart bleed, I still would have chosen you.

If He had told me that this soul would make me question the depth of my faith, I still would have chosen you.

If He had told me that this soul would make tears flow from my eyes that would overflow a river, I still would have chosen you.

If He had told me that our time spent together here on Earth could be short, I still would have chosen you.

If He had told me that all that I know to be normal would drastically change, I still would have chosen you.

Of course, even though I would have chosen you, I know it was God who chose me for you.

Thank you God

Peace to you and your family

Anonymous said...

Just recently found your website. I am so sorry for your loss. Many thoughts and prayers for you and your family.


Gilbert Family said...

Becky-my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Find comfort in the amazing plan of salvation and I pray that you will feel the Savior's love at this time.

Love you,

Anonymous said...

Ben's Family--like many others you do not know me but I have had the privilege of following your journey for the past year. It has been an honour to watch as you have loved him so completely. You have truly exemplified the Saviour's love. Thank you for sharing him with the rest of us. I know the plan is complete and perfect and that Ben is yours eternally. I do cry for your empty arms until you meet again. May heavens blessings surround you and your family through the coming days, months and years until you once again wrapped in Ben's embrace.

ANewKindOfPerfect said...

Oh my gosh Becky! I cannot believe what I read. I am literally sitting here with tears pouring down my cheeks and my body racked with sobs. I just loved reading about Ben and seeing all the love that your family has with him in it. I am absolutely devastated for you. I never got the pleasure of "meeting" Ben but I will never, EVER forget him!!

Oh .... I wish we were near you. I am just so sad. :( Your family with be in my thoughts non-stop.

kathryn said...

Becky, my heart is breaking for you. Ben is so lucky to have you as his mother. You both are an inspiration to all of us of the true love of a family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Anonymous said...

Though we have never met, our paths are so similar, our Hearts reach out to you!

For Ben:

Happy Birthday

God saw you getting tired
and a cure was not to be
So he put his arms around
you and whispered
"Come to Me"
With tearful eyes we watched you
and saw you pass away.
Although we loved you dearly
we could not make you stay.
A golden heart stopped
hard working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts
to prove to us
He only takes the BEST.
(author unknown)

We sure will miss you!!

susette said...

Your sweet little guy has touched my heart and spirit. I know his spirit is closer than you may realize.

We lost our 18 year old son less than 3 months ago and have felt his presence with us on occasion. I truly believe our loved ones are close by.

This plan of Heavenly Father's hurts at times but I'm grateful for the knowledge of eternal families. May the Lord bless your family at this time of sadness.

Amy M. said...

Our love to you and your family. An angel gone back to heaven. We pray that your hearts will be wrapped in love.

Jane said...

Oh Becky,
I am so sorry to read this news of your sweet Benny. My heart breaks for you and for your family. I know he was sent to your family to fulfill his mission. You were the perfect mother for him. Now he has his perfect body back and is going to be watching over you and your family. Please know you are in my prayers.
May god wrap you in the arms of his love and send you peace and comfort.
I am a better person because you shared with me the life of your son. Becky, you are amazing and one that I look up to so much,

Anonymous said...

I don't know you or Ben, but your story is one that I have followed. When I got on this morning, my heart sank. I am so sorry for your loss. May peace be with you and your family at this time.

Rachel Malca said...

To Ben's family:

I am so, so sorry that Ben is gone. He leaves a huge hole that will never be filled. He also leaves an amazing gift for everyone.

He was a messenger of love and kindness which so many of his other brothers and sisters on this earth magnified into a vast panorama of unselfish compassion and love.

Thank you for sharing him and his beautiful life with all of us.

Much love and heartfelt wishes for peace to all of you for the loss of your sweet Ben.

Anonymous said...

I have also never met you but I have been following Ben for a while. I am so sad and sorry for your loss. I am thinking of you and your family. Thank you for letting us in to Ben's life.


Marcy said...

I've never met you, but I know of you through LL and Smilin' Sunshine. I'm so sorry for your loss and wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you and praying for your family. Thank you for your amazing example!!

Dave Champagne said...

I love you Ben! When it's my turn to cross over, I'll get to meet you and get to know the special spirit we got to know just a little bit during your time hear. I'll miss you, and am praying for your family, and all who love you.

Trina and Jophie said...

Becky....I am sooo sorry. My heart is aching so much for you. I wish I were closer to be with you. I pray you feel Gods loving arms surrounding you and your family my friend.

Love you..
Trina and Jophie

Angie T. said...

I have never met your family but I feel like I know you. Thank you for sharing Ben's story. Your family is such an inspiration to so many. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. May you find peace.

troutdalite said...

Becky and family,

thanks for teaching us so much and letting us share a tiny bit of your family's life and example with Ben. Love from Oregon ( and loved your last pics of your kids and sweet Sarah jumping : )

NeeNee said...

We have been blessed to follow Benjamin's progress, so it was sad to see the blog today. He was truly a miracle, and we have admired how you have cared for God's miracle over the years. We have learned much from your love, laughter,and dedication that you have for one another. May God bring comfort to your family.

TMI Tara said...

Oh Ben..... you have truly been in my thoughts this weekend. I talked about you several times to Chloe as we were talking about the boys she loves. You must have been there with us.

I am so sorry, Becky and Orton family. What a special soul you have lost! I hope you feel the comfort of our savior's arms around you. I WISH I could put my arms around you.

I love you.

Colleen said...

I am so sorry! Sending my prayers for your family!

The Marrott Family said...

My heart breaks for you and your family. What an example you've been to me. I've been touched and inspired by you and your sweet little boy. God bless you and yours in this time of great sorrow. I'll remember you in my prayers.