Monday, June 7, 2010

Benjamin's Obituary

Today we will be dressing Benjamin.  Probably one of the hardest days aside from his passing.  It will be the final time we will get to see and touch his body.  This is the outfit we will be dressing him in.  Thank you Aunt Suzanne for this gift.  He will look so handsome.  Below is Ben's obituary that comes out in the paper today as well.  I struggled as the love we felt for Benjamin could never be put into words.  I did the best that I could.  So many HARD reminders.  Oh how we miss those chubby cheeks and beautiful blue eyes with the lashes that waved to me every morning as I kissed him awake.
Benjamin McKay Orton passed away peacefully at home on Saturday, May 29th at the tender age of 8 years old.  He leaves behind his father and mother, Steve and Becky Orton of Gilford, NH along with three older siblings, Kayla, Kaleb and Stevie.  He also leaves behind his maternal grandparents, Kenneth and Priscilla Hutchins of Northboro, Massachusetts; his paternal grandparents, Chad and Beth Marie Orton of Logan, UT; many aunts and uncles and over 40 cousins who loved him dearly. 


Benjamin was born April 4, 2002 and was not expected to live past his birth.  He was our 8 year miracle who flourished purely on love.  Our sweet little boy brought such joy and happiness to those who had the privilege to know him.  We will dearly miss his beautiful blue eyes with forever lashes, his wrinkly little head and those kissable cheeks that we could never get enough of. 

We are grateful for the Children’s Hospital of Dartmouth who became Benjamin’s second family, especially those on the DHART and PICU teams.  Benjamin was fortunate to have such amazing doctors and nurses that lovingly cared for him which allowed for a quality of life that would not have been possible otherwise. 

We take great comfort in the knowledge that families can be together forever and look forward to that day when we will once again wrap our arms around our beloved Benjamin.  Until then, he will be wrapped around our hearts.  We love you little Benny! xoxo 

A celebration of his life will be held on Friday, June 11, 2010 at 11:00 AM at the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints,  1442 North Main Street in Laconia, New Hampshire. He will be buried in the Town of Northboro Cemetery in Northboro, Massachusetts. Graveside services will be private.

In lieu of flowers, his family respectfully requests that donations be made to the Children’s Hospital at Dartmouth in Benjamin’s name.

16 comments:

Erin said...

I hope today went well! The day we dressed Charlotte actually turned out to be very sweet and special. I'm very glad we did it. I sure hope you will have the same tender sweet memories. Love you.

ANewKindOfPerfect said...

Becky I hope that today went okay and you are home and spending time with your family. I can't imagine how hard that must have been. I am literally crying just thinking about it. My husband came in the room even to see what was wrong. I have told him about Ben, had showed him your pictures, and he knew we were going to see you in Arizona. When I told him about Ben's passing last weekend, he broke into tears as well. Life is so fragile with our little ones ... it's just incredible.

I wish we lived near you and could come to Ben's celebration on Friday. You will be in my thoughts for sure!

Jenny said...

How do you write an obituary for your child? But you did it so beautifully. He is such a special, wonderful little boy.

The Kings said...

Hi - you don't know me but I have a son, Noah who has hydranencephaly. He will be 9 in a couple of weeks. We live in Tasmania, Australia and are LDS also.
I'm so sorry to hear about your beautiful son Ben passing away. I'm blown away with how much he looks like Noah. We have a blog if you want to check it out. There are photos of Noah on there.
You are in our prayers at this sad time. I'm glad that you know where he is right now and that you will see him again.

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Smilin' sunshine said...

That is a beautiful obituary. I know they are not easy to write, and I can't imagine writing one for a child. You and Steve are amazing.

Malinda said...

You did a beautiful job. Our prayers are with you.

Junior said...

Becky you did a beautiful job on Ben's obituary. Every word shares the love you have for him.
sending all our love, prayers, and lots of hugs

LL said...

He will look so handsome in the outfit. The obituary is perfect!
Love to you!!!

Annie said...

That was such a beautiful tribute to Ben. He is truly a blessed child to have such a wonderful mother.

shirlgirl said...

You did an awesome job--so much love in what you wrote about Benji. I agree with what everyone said in their reply to your blog for Ben. I hope your day went well. Lots of love to all of you. Aunt Shirley and Uncle David

Rachael said...

I can't imagine how hard that was for you--it's perfect.

Christy said...

So Lovely Becky! All who knew Ben know the deepness of this Obituary.

KeriLyn and Matthew said...

That is beautiful, Becky....it expresses the love of a family....i just keep thinking about him, about you, about your family....we will be thinking of you on Friday, celebrating his 8 years of love that he had to share with everyone....even those of us who never had a chance to meet him face to face....he has touched many....xoxoxo

Bugg's mama said...

I am so so sad. I'm sorry to hear about Ben's passing. People ask me all the time, "how do you do it?" and now I'm asking you the same question. This is crazy, I feel like you're my sister, Ben is my nephew, and we've never even met. But does it matter?

I'm thankful to know you!
Love, Bree

TMI Tara said...

His outfit is just adorable. The obituary is a perfect explanation of Ben's life -- you did a great job of expressing the love you have for him. It's perfect.

I'm thinking of you often. I love you. xo